Destroying a Biased Worldview One Conversation at a Time
Was there ever someone that felt you just couldn’t like? Someone you only knew from a distance? And every time you thought about them you where over-run with reasons to dislike them. Or maybe it was an elusive reason that you couldn’t quite put your finger on. Over and over again you would think to yourself; “I simply cannot stand the sight of this person”. Maybe you saw this person and you would wonder if it’s the way that they dress that has you so annoyed. Or maybe it’s the way they walk? Maybe it’s the way they speak to others that grates against your soul.
I have been there. Feeling some disturbance deep within that has me on guard and up in arms. We have all been there, passing judgement, as our minds chug ahead of the present moment making up stories. Every one of us has been there, assuming to know what motivates a person, and deciding whether or not it makes them right or wrong, good or evil. Every single one of us has been there.
Now the more important question; Have you ever noticed how the more you talk with someone the more you start to like them? Or at the very least you start to realize that they are not who you thought they where, and that your initial impression was a bit off.
The more of the story you hear the more you can relate.
This has happened to me over and over again. Each and every time decimating the inherent bias and prejudice I contracted as a youth.
Through open and honest communication we learn the true motivations, the true intent, the true heart and mind of an individual.
I can tell you from experience that everyone has a story to tell. We all have a true story, one that will likely lay waste to every preconceived notion attached to race, gender, sex, age, culture, intellect, and so on.
Contrary to popular belief, we are all in this together… but let me stop right there to clarify;
I am not talking about some wishy-washy New Age Philosophy that discounts the very real and inescapable fact that we are all individuals. Individuals experiencing life from a unique vantage point that is ours and ours alone. Amassing a wealth of sensory experiential data that makes our inner life more unique than any fingerprint could ever be.
We all have varying degrees of understanding on any number of topics, and that understanding directly correlates with our real world experiences into the subjects being discussed. Our rational minds rely on the specific set of data that constructs a linear line of reasoning.
We can think our way through, but we can also feel our way through.
As social creatures we possess an empathetic nature. Our empathetic or feeling nature is universal. And when we take the time to listen to our brothers and sisters as they share with us, and allow ourselves to be transported into their stories, experiencing the sights, sounds, tastes and betrayals, albeit diluted a thousand-fold, we can awaken to an understanding of the validity in their perspective.
We can embark on a journey to deepen our understanding of the human experience, whether black or brown or a reddish hue the emotions are often the same.
Our emotions know not the barrier of language, we can unite in empathy. All we need is the courage to let the emotions flow freely.
Next time you listen to someone telling you about themselves, stop the chatter of mind that spews forth assumptions and anecdotal information prematurely, and listen to the emotional undercurrents behind the words to truly understand.
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